Mustard Seed

Faith like a mustard seed can mountains. Our problems, sins, pains, are mountains that we can move with faith.
Faith is a choice though. We have to choose to do our part. We are responsible for our faith. Do we pray, seek knowledge, have hope, etc? If we do, our mountains will move with the Lord's help.

Jealousy Has a Mind of it's Own

Jealousy has a mind of it's own. I'm watching 3rd grade girls go through it. They get so blinded and really, I'm learning a lot, but it is hard to direct a child to get away from it. When jealousy takes over, its hard to talk sense into them! It doesn't leave us as we get older. We can always be led by jealousy if we let it. We have to make sure we change our hearts and get away if it starts taking over. Lesson relearned.

A Child's Words

Child: "Mom are you still sick?" Me: "I'm getting better and I don't hurt anymore." Child: "Yeah, when we hurt feelings we have to put a band-aid on it and say sorry."

The Atonement

At church we discussed the atonement and how Christ died for our sins. The perspective was brought up that when we sin there is an effect on others. Their lives are effected by our choices and their choices effect us. The Savior atoned for the sins of that person and also heals (emotionally, mentally) those who have been effected. It really is amazing. Of course in both cases, the person involved has to ask for forgiveness or ask to be healed. He wants us to come to Him but we have to choose to.

As a little Child

As parents we teach kids to be independent adults. Our Heavenly Father is teaching us to become as a little child-teachable, forgiving, unconditional love, etc.

Growing Wisdom

I have been struck with the thought that I am so grateful I am where I am in my life. In talking with friends and discussing being younger, we agreed we would never want to go back to when we were younger. We learn and grow and I'd never sacrifice the knowledge I've gained to go back to a previous, younger time. In fact I'm excited to be older because I know I will refine myself, react better, make better choices faster. I'll see life with more wisdom.
I see the wisdom I've already gained and I'm grateful I have it. Although, sometimes I wish I could skip ahead so I'd deal with my children more wisely now. I do know we are to learn and grow and it is a cycle everyone goes through.
The crazy part is, I randomly saw a book at the library called "The Secret Life of the Grown-Up Brain" and it discusses those same ideas of wisdom. And besides that, it makes me feel better now when I can't remember simple information or a name, or when I walk upstairs and forget why I was there. I love how I find comfort for my life for things I can't control. I am definitely led and watched over.

A Solution

I have been blessed by being led to EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique). I was seeking for a way to get rid of my negative emotion from the past. It keeps getting triggered and upsetting my everyday life. I had my Aunt drawing negative emotions out with her skills as a massage therapist, but she lives 5 1/2 hours away. I needed a local outlet.
I tried to look up her therapy but didn't find it since I didn't know what it was called, but I came across EFT after a few days of searching on the internet. A chiropractor talked about it and then I was able to look it up specifically. I found EFT for Dummies at the library and have felt at peace and excited (if those two words can go together) to have this answer.
I am excited to use the atonement since Christ suffered for our fears and hurting as well. We are allowed to find peace and I'm so grateful.
I called my sister and asked if she had heard of it. After I explained it, she said she had used it in her therapy and still uses it now. She just didn't know it was called EFT. It will be a long road but now I have a tool that can help me use the atonement to help me find emotional peace.

The Same Light

I found out something amazing! My husband said when he shared a room with his brother, that he would have to turn the light off early. He wanted to read his scriptures, so he would go in the closet and close the door so he could use the closet light.
I am one lucky wife! I am so blessed to have the man that I do. He is the man I need. I need a partner who wants to be part of the gospel just like I do. And my husband does!

An Imperfect Filter

I was able to go to Sunday School today after practicing the Primary Program. They talked about making sure we follow the gospel with our hearts instead of making it a check list. One comment was made to the effect: Jesus Christ is perfect and he does things perfect but we are not. Often we are used as instruments even though we are not perfect like Christ. He is working through an imperfect filter and the job still gets done.
This leads to us doing our best and doing things with our hearts especially when we are with other people.
I found a connection...
I had the chance to give an example of how to be brave when we have to do something hard by ourselves to the primary kids during practice.
I had a trombone solo to play during a musical play and I was intimidated. No one else played at all. The trumpet player (older and wiser) told me that no matter if I played it good or messed up, that I should play it strong and loud and with purpose. I hoped it helped the kids who were nervous saying their parts in the microphone. It gave me a good reminder to do my best with purpose even if I mess up.
I sort of related this to Christ using us as instruments even though we are not perfect. We do our best with full purpose of heart and those around us will get what they need and so will we. Even the parts the kids say wrong or the kids that had a hard time even saying theirs, had something to give.

I Need MUSIC!

We went to a different ward for church after a family reunion. The people did not sing the hymns during Sacrament meeting. We could only hear the chorister and we were sitting near the back!
I realized how much and how well our ward sings and I noticed how the spirit is there when we sing. I am really grateful our ward sings the hymns because I need it. The meeting feels more complete and has comfort.

Weaknesses Become Strengths

We did it! At least we hope we figured it out. My husband works hard to try to support me and finds himself lacking but we may have found the solution.
We addressed his weakness-he doesn't have very many. He has a hard time with communication and dealing with emotion, which is exactly the support I need.
We acknowledged it, accepted it, and made a plan to succeed. He may never be good at his weakness-but he listens well and can ask for help. All he has to do is listen to find out what support I need and ask me for help if he doesn't know what it is or what to do. He feels confident now and has rescued conversations and disagreements already! I don't mind helping as long as he listens, and he is good at listening.
We found he was distracted by the stress of his weakness and he was unable to listen to me. Now he feels no stress about the weakness because he just has to listen and ask for help.
I am so grateful for the opportunity to have weaknesses become strong. This was a perfect example of how we can just listen and ask and the Savior can help us. It is an amazing double meaning!

Both Lessons, Good and Bad

The kids and I went for a long trip (10 days) to visit my parents and family. While there, my parents and I had a harsh talk on my parenting techniques. I went away realizing I need to change some behaviors I have with my parents. The talk ended positive but I should have handled it differently from the beginning.
A little history on my conversation skills. I am incredibly agreeable and I lack the confidence to allow my feelings and needs to be met. I worry too much about making the other person comfortable and put their needs before my own.
That said- I need to handle conversations with my parents more like an independent adult even when the conversations are positive. I need confidence in my actions or at least to know that I'm doing my best and I will discuss things later after stating my stance. My stance is "I have to take care of this issue first, then if you want to talk later we can," instead of using their time line.
This is a skill I'd like to use with people in general. "I am a person and I am the one responsible to take care of my stuff. You can wait while I take care of me and my family. I am guided and directed and receive personal revelation for my stuff. Thank you for caring but it's my life."
I will have to figure out how to redirect conversations with others but this incite is such a blessing and will be so helpful when I figure out how to use it!
My parents said something helpful about my anger and that I am angry because my husband doesn't make enough money for me. It is true that finances stress me out for lack of money and we are so efficient and still lack. I told my husband he had to share in the stress of looking at our finances. I am the primary finance person in our family so it is time he shared that with me.
It is great to have a simple thing said. I notice I am less angry when I take it out on the actual problem. If I'm mad at my husband I need to take it out on him even if I have to yell or say not very nice things. I don't have a problem staying calm for the kids if I do that first. He should deal with my anger not them.
Both things came from my harsh talk with my parents, so I know I needed both lessons. The good and the bad blesses our lives.

Better Boundaries

There are times when I get "busy" and I don't want to be bothered. The kids bring me pictures and hug me or rub my belly or my arm to show they love me. Sometimes I feel overwhelmed by so much attention and it makes me push them away. This is just the opposite of what I really want to do.
I want to accept their love but I have teach them how to love me too. I have started giving better boundaries so the kids don't feel rejected at those times and I don't feel overwhelmed. It is a balance that is hard for me to keep, but I certainly want the kids to feel accepted and loved by me.

Progress and Growth

It has been nearly 2 months and really, I have progressed. Getting more support to help me get my health and happiness back has really been effective. I've progressed in many ways-diet, exercise, daily stress, emotional and relationship drama is more controlled. I still have goals-I'd like to exercise more intensely, continue to de-stress and other stuff to keep the progress.
I just feel more free and so blessed for all the things I have. I am so grateful! I know I am watched over and I am where I need to be. Me and my family will grow from this trial. We already are.

Still a Little Stung

At church a friend of mine asked if I planned to do the same thing I did for the junior primary that I did for the senior. I was confused and sort of fumbled with my answer not knowing what she wanted. She had not looked at me or said anything else to me, not even a "hi" or smile, so I felt a little reprimanded. While she did this, I felt like I was one of her kids.
As I sat through sacrament meeting, still a little stung, I realized the flaw parents can make, including me. If the only attention a child gets is being put in an awkward spot, then that isn't a good relationship. A greeting should be said, a hug or smile of reassurance should be given. Something that says that person is important.
I learned I want to make sure I do those simple greetings to my family-husband and kids-because I love them and they're special to me.